Liberal men: misogynist, violent little brats

My most recent post delved into the issue of the woman-hating nature of the liberal male as it relates to reproduction, and partially to the vitriol non-liberal women are treated to by these creatures, in the form of intimidating, vituperative verbal barrages when the non-liberal female should express unsanctioned political beliefs; a phenomenon that any outspoken, socially conservative, anti-globalist, XX-chromosomed person surely has first-hand experience of.

Well, it appears the methods of the virulently misogynist left are in the process of evolving from “just” aggressive verbal abuse to non-compliant women (which is appalling enough) into outright physical violence. Just last night, a female Trump-supporter was attacked with pepper spray by a left-wing “protester” (violent Stalinist thug) who had helped force the University of California in Berkeley to cancel a speech by libertarian personality, Milo Yiannopoulos (who I am not a fan of, but that’s not the point), while she was being interviewed by a reporter. Let’s boil the story down to its bare bones: a woman was physically assaulted by a man for having a certain set of political views.

This has, understandably, shocked all decent, moral people who have heard about it, but the more I think about it, the more I think that, actually, it is not that shocking at all. We already live in a society where it is commonplace for men to stand eyeball-to-eyeball with women and scream in their face (which is socially acceptable, so long as he subscribes to the correct ideology); we live in a society that teaches boys when they are growing up that women are just the targets of sexual conquests. And to add the rotten cherry to the whole stinking, mouldy, maggot-infested cake of modern pseudo-parenting, we live in an era saturated by pornography, which is increasingly violent and misogynistic in nature; which causes men’s brains to degenerate; and which is only ever a few clicks away for children whose parents spend 34 minutes per day with them, and who have smartphones before they’ve even started school, because apathetic parents find such devices useful in distracting their naturally energetic small children, so they can get on and do the really important things, like watch Emmerdale and message their friends on Facebook.

Additionally, increasingly, being conservative (or even just non-liberal) relegates one to the status of subhuman; a grotesque monster, to be detested, jeered at, and yes, persecuted; violently, if necessary. After all, conservatives – male or female – deserve it, because they’re, like, evil. Thusly, anyone who has ever observed a romantic relationship involving a leftist male will affirm that, in the vast majority of cases, an unhealthy, domineering, psychologically abusive dynamic exists, with the man being the dominant party. Several years ago, I knew a young lady who was in a romantic relationship with a man. The girl was a liberal, but she was a very nice person who I liked, but who clearly lack self-esteem and confidence; a lamb to the slaughter, as liberal, libertine men prey on damaged females, because women with proper self-esteem do not tolerate being treated poorly. This girl’s boyfriend treated her very badly, before she eventually dumped him: he would casually belittle her in front of other people, intentionally making hurtful, derogatory statements; and he would also flirt with other people in front of her. This sort of example is far from uncommon, and the truly amusing thing is that this cretin assuaged what tiny little crumb of a conscience he had by being a left-wing extremist, virtue-signalling about feminism (yes, really), multiculturalism, green politics, and so on. Leftist men know that society gives them a free reign to treat people as hideously as they like, so long as they stay within the confines of the law (which is becoming softer and softer over the generations) and espouse the correct political beliefs.

So, when you consider the confluence of the factors in the preceding paragraphs, men being violent towards women on political grounds is not really that surprising at all. In fact, it’s inevitable. You simply cannot raise generations of badly-parented, empathy-impaired, porn-addicted boys who think women are simply walking sex objects and expect them to blossom into civilised young gentleman; you cannot expect men who have been raised in a culture that devalues women and conservatives to behave civilly towards, err, conservative women. I do not believe humans start off as totally blank slates – I believe we are born with genetic predilections – but it is clear that our early years are absolutely crucial in forming the type of person we become, and can override a lot of the genetic programming we are blessed / cursed with. There are people out there who were born with perfectly healthy brains, who have been turned into psychopaths. Likewise, there are people who were born with brains neurologically similar to those of psychopaths, but who have developed – through good, nurturing, loving parenting – empathy and the ability to consider other people’s needs. So while genetics play a role, we cannot just blame traits that we do not like in people on their DNA, and doing so is not helpful. We have to look at their formative years, and we have to reassess the way we ‘do’ parenting.

Most men know, instinctively, that we do not physically hurt women. It’s an unspoken covenant that is unbreakable if one wishes to be able to participate properly in society – wife-beaters and rapists are never forgiven. Even most men who are otherwise very licentious and very inconsiderate of women fully understand that male-on-female violence is a line that cannot be crossed, without severe, life-ruining consequences. So something has to have gone very, very wrong for a man to even think of attacking a woman; there is a fundamental, key component of humanity and masculinity that is missing in men who raise a finger against a woman. It is appalling, hideous, unforgivable, but given the way society is structured, its manifold and manifest deficiencies, and its lazy, apathetic, amoral, borderline-psychotic method of raising children, combined with the fact that our culture is an incubator of genuine hatred towards anyone with remotely conservative views, it can’t be too much of a surprise. I am not excusing men who are violent towards women: I genuinely hate them, and while my Christian duty compels me to forgive those who genuinely repent, I admit that I am not perfect, and I can’t. I’m offering an analysis on what makes these men the way they are, so that we can avoid the mistakes of our parents and grandparents, and raise the next generation of male children to be emotionally healthy, empathetic people, which greatly reduces the risk of misogynistic violence.

Such politically motivated male-on-female violence is still far from being widely accepted, but the signs are there that it is on the way to being accepted. Think I am being hyperbolic? 60 years ago, the crude, base way in which many men today talk about (and to) women was wholly socially unacceptable. In 2017, this language is considered normal. Our culture and our society is degenerating rapidly, on a daily basis, and so we – people who stand for traditional morality, civility, and decency – have to be prepared to adjust to whatever the new ‘normal’ is in the future. So what are we going to do about this problem? Because our wives, daughters, mothers, sisters, and friends are living in a society that is increasingly dangerous for them. One of the foundational principles of masculinity is that men defend women and children. We are living in dark times, infused with all sorts of dangerous people, and they need us more than ever.

P.S. If you would like to send the young lady who was pepper sprayed at UC Berkeley a message of solidarity, you can reach her on Twitter: https://twitter.com/kiarafrobles

 

 

Liberal men: misogynist little brats

In the wake of the inauguration of President Donald Trump (don’t those three words sound good?), a series of highly publicised “Women’s Marches” (Soros-funded collective expressions of confused rage at nothing in particular) erupted across the Western world. Though mainly undertaken by radical feminist females who had been wound up by the media into thinking Trump was going to have them forcibly impregnated, or something, these marches were participated in by a fair amount of men – who self-identify as feminists – as well. So what motivated these men, these male feminists?

Though they claim to be very pro-female, and solely interested in defending and advancing women’s rights, my opinion is that this is a cynical ruse; a stratagem designed to win acceptance from the feminist movement, in order to advance their own aims, which are certainly anything but female-friendly. The focal point of the marches were centred around crude slogans such as “keep your tiny hands off my p***y” and “my uterus is not government property” (an absurd statement, given these people demand state-funded contraception); that is, the main thrust of the ‘arguments’ (and I am very generous in using that term) offered by the protesters was to further and retain access to birth control and abortion, given that President Trump and – especially – Vice-President Pence had just entered the White House.

This begs the question: why did a substantial number of left-wing men join in on these marches? Is it because they love and feel a deep respect for women? I do not think so, judging by the sheer, vile hatred that is dished out by liberal men to non-liberal women. A very close female friend of mine – a young girl, just out of university age, and not really interested in politics – told me that she made the fatal mistake of telling a liberal male in her workplace which way she voted in Britain’s EU referendum: Leave. She was set upon in a verbally aggressive way, and condemned for being racist, xenophobic, homophobic, claustrophobic, and LGBTQWERTYphobic; and this verbal assault understandably left her feeling very intimidated and upset. Such instances of genuinely misogynistic treatment towards non-liberal women from tolerant, enlightened men are very common (think of the names female politicians who are unpopular with liberals, like Margaret Thatcher or Theresa May, are called; or even media commentators, like Katie Hopkins; or how about Melania Trump, who gangs of liberal men threatened to rape on Twitter). Another female friend of mine was the recipient of an aggressive, abusive rant on a social media platform the other day, delivered by a left-wing man, simply because she expressed pro-life and anti-casual sex opinions; this left-wing man didn’t react nearly so strongly to another male who also expressed pro-life opinions, because they never do: liberal men are stinking cowards and bullies; and like all bullies, they pick on those they perceive as weaker than themselves. Liberal men are full of misogynistic rage, which they take out on women who dare to reject the liberal principles that the liberal man has demanded they believe in. Sounds like patriarchy, to me!

So, it is clear liberal feminist men are not motivated by an intrinsic love of womankind, given how appallingly ladies who think for themselves are treated. So what does motivate male feminists to scream and shout from the rooftops about how contraception and abortion (I thought men weren’t allowed an opinion on abortion, anyway? Must be only pro-life men that aren’t) are some sort of inherent, God-given right of women?

Put simply: selfishness. If we consider what contraception and abortion do, we come to the obvious conclusion that they establish and maintain the illusion of ‘safe’, sterile sex that doesn’t result in giving birth to a human child. Contraception disassociates sex from fertility by drastically (but definitely not completely) reducing the risk of a woman becoming pregnant; abortion – sold to women as a minor, non-invasive procedure with no lasting negative effects – is there as a fail-safe last resort, when the contraception doesn’t work. Without contraception and abortion, the illusion / delusion crumbles: the creative potential of a heterosexual union is made starkly apparent to both sexes, but particularly women, who see that casual sex is so risky that it is not worth partaking in – if you think about it, why on Earth would any woman risk not just pregnancy, but also being left high and dry to care for a baby on her own, just for five minutes of “fun” with someone they barely know and cannot trust? To do so would be insanely dangerous, and if the medications – contraception and abortion – for “accidental” pregnancy did not exist, no woman would be so reckless.

So the liberal man fights tooth-and-nail for those birth-prevention measures, because without them, he can no longer use women he barely or, indeed, doesn’t know, for fleeting physical pleasure; to have sex with a woman, he’s going to have to be a gentleman over a sustained period of time: he’s going to have to get to know a lady, and he’s going to have to demonstrate to her over a period of time that he’s a trustworthy, dependable, loyal partner; and then, he’s going to have to drag himself out of adolescence, and commit to looking after her and their future offspring for the rest of his life (and that all sounds like a lot of hard work and effort – things leftists are not overly fond of).

Actually, when it comes to courtship and marriage, women were given all of the power by nature / God: even in other species, it’s the males who have to prove to the female that they’re worth of being their partner, and in a human society devoid of contraception and abortion, and which has rigorously enforced standards of sexual ethics that stretch beyond mere “consent“, it’s exactly the same: if men are not willing or able to provide the loving security and stability the woman requires, then it’s simple: no sex, no marriage. I go into much more detail on this in a previous post, but basically, the introduction of contraception (and abortion) completely trivialises sex, and removes the female’s natural power over the situation. Like most things third-wave feminism advocates, it doesn’t liberate women – it enslaves them; it relegates them to the status of mere sex toys, who can be plied with alcohol, used for sex, and then coldly disposed of. Men who advocate contraception and abortion very well know this, and it is why they do so.

What man, who has genuine respect for women (which only comes from sound moral teaching and loving platonic relationships with females in early life), could possibly fight, in good conscience for abortion? Leaving aside the fact that it – along with contraception, as explained in the paragraph above clips the wings of female autonomy, and leaving aside the more obvious impact – the dead human child, let’s explore the lesser-known effects of abortion: the deleterious effects on the mother. A woman’s first pregnancy permanently changes her breasts: during that pregnancy, she is at higher risk of breast cancer, but once the pregnancy reaches its natural conclusion – childbirth – the cells in that area stabilise forever, reducing the risk; but if her first pregnancy is interrupted, her breasts are permanently stuck in the volatile period before birth, permanently increasing her breast cancer risk. Also, abortion raises the risk of future miscarriages by 60%, meaning that many women who have had abortions, who want to start a family later on in life, find it difficult to do so. And that’s not all: the risk of women who have an abortion attempting suicide is increased sixfold, because abortion is an invasive, traumatising procedure: women who have miscarriages are devastated, often barely able to function, for months on end; some never recover. Why would it be different for vulnerable women who opted for abortion, just because society lied to them, selling them the fake idea that abortion is a quick and easy solution to all problems?

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How abortion effects women. But you don’t care, do you, liberal male? All you care about is your own short-lived “fun”.

Given not only the profound damage dealt by abortion, but the stripping of natural feminine power by contraception and the casualisation of sex, it is clear that if a man genuinely cares for women, he cannot possibly be pro-abortion and pro-casual sex; he can only be an advocate of those things if he is either a) ignorant; or b) misogynistic and selfish. Given the acidic, venomous – and usually female-specific – hatred directed towards women of various unapproved ideological persuasions, we can safely rule out option A, in the case of liberal men. Since the Sexual Revolution in the late 1950s and early 1960s, men have had carte blanche to use women for aimless sexual ‘thrills’, which at best “just” exploit the women involved, but at worst, cause them long-term psychological – and even medical – problems. Men who support this cannot legitimately be called pro-female, and I am staggered as to how female feminists cannot see that they are aligned with a bunch of woman-hating misogynists.

Personally, given various relationships of different types and degrees, both present and past, I quite like women, and think they should be treated with dignity and respect, not as cheap sex toys for unscrupulous men. Male feminists: you may have fooled your female feminist allies into believing you are pro-female activists, fighting for a safer and more accepting world for women; but we social conservatives – male and female alike – can see straight through you. We know what woman-hating, spoilt, selfish little boys you really are.

For more writing on a similar matter, please see my previous post, “Why contraception is misogynistic (and gay)”.

Why contraception is misogynistic (and gay)

One of the biggest falsehoods of the dominant cultural narrative of our time is the idea that traditional, time-tested sexual morality is intrinsically and irredeemably misogynistic, and that the liberal remedy of meaningless promiscuous sex – given a dangerous, false sense of sterility by carcinogenic condoms or hormonal contraceptives – constitutes a wonderful, liberating solution for women (try telling that to young girls who are essentially bullied into sexual acts they do not feel comfortable with, all to please males – how empowering!).

Well, I feel beholden to ask the question: on what planet is radically altering, and in effect neutralising, someone’s God-given reproductive faculties liberating? One of the defining characteristics of being female is the possession of a womb and thus the ability to carry and give birth to children; yet the purpose of contraception is to prevent pregnancy from occurring. The explicit purpose of contraception is to obstruct female reproductive processes, thus relegating women to the status of sex toys. How is that not appallingly misogynistic in nature? Why do feminists, whose raison d’etre is supposedly to raise awareness of female-specific issues, focus on completely ridiculous non-issues like manspreading, instead of on this very real and very important violation of female dignity?

In my experience, the most passionate advocates for contraception and ‘sexual liberation’ are a certain type of man – very promiscuous, commitment-phobic, unwilling or unable to hold down a romantic relationship for very long, and most significantly, self-declared male feminists who claim to care deeply for “women’s rights”, because they just love and care about women so, so much. They are rotten hypocrites, who absolve themselves of any guilt they may feel about how sub-optimally they treat the women in their own lives by preaching from the progressive pulpit to all and sundry. I once knew a leftie (who was even called Oliver…) who fits exactly this archetype: spent whole evenings flirting with girls who were not single in front of his own girlfriend, but assuaged whatever walnut-sized conscience he had by spouting the usual, often-recycled, empty feminist platitudes about “choice” and “consent” to anyone who would listen.

The reason these men approve of the idea of female promiscuity and contraception is not because they have great respect for women, as they claim. You see, loving and respecting something means to accept and embrace it; not to attack its fundamental characteristics. These men love an imaginary version of women, who are exactly the same as men, except physically; these men reject the very essence of what separates a female from a male – her ability to conceive and carry new human beings. You cannot have any meaningful, real respect for femininity if you are so petrified of one of its core defining features that you try and change it. It’s rather like how middle-class leftists profess to love the working classes, but actually love a romanticised image of the working classes, who are essentially just poorer versions of middle-class leftists, holding the exact same views on everything. But the reality is that the working classes generally hold an entirely apathetic view towards, for instance, the rampant LGBT agendas the middle classes are so obsessed with, and that they actually take a downright antipathetic view of multiculturalism and mass immigration – which the middle classes cannot accept, just like the male liberals cannot accept female fertility, so they seek to suppress and neutralise it instead.

Promiscuous, contraceptionist men are petrified of female biology, of the creative potential of the female body, and so contraception is a mechanism they seek to use to control and suppress these things. When a man has sex with a woman, from the moment of climax, all control of the situation is taken away from him. He has surrendered his genetic material to his partner, and the internal processes of her body will dictate whether she conceives or not – the man has no natural influence over whether the woman will bear his offspring or not after the point of ejaculation.

Removing this (as contraception attempts to do), and giving men the option to have unprotected sex without the implicit possibility of pregnancy (not that contraception is 100% effective, but it is marketed as being so), puts women into a very dangerous, difficult situation. Men can walk away from a sexual encounter and not think about it ever again; women who have sex always bear the risk of becoming pregnant, and the impact of pregnancy reverberates for life – the woman either carries the child to birth, or has an abortion, which very often psychologically scars the mother for life. It is, therefore, absolutely crucial for the well-being of women for communities and society at large to strictly regulate sexuality by enforcing strict codes of sexual conduct which everyone is expected to adhere to; something natural, sane societies have always done, but which, I am afraid to say, the insane dystopia we all currently endure does not.

Healthy social attitudes towards sex, which are properly enforced, provide invaluable protection for women. The context of a properly functional society built upon the foundation of a proper moral code that goes beyond mere “consent” helps to ensure that women who become pregnant are provided with the protection, support, and stability they are going to need, by effectively barring men who are not prepared to commit for life to their partner from having access to sex, which is one of mankind’s most powerful motivators. This ensures that women are not left high and dry, unsupported, holding the baby, which is never anywhere close to ideal for the mother or for the baby.

Contraception removes all of these essential safeguards. It has given rise to the extremely destructive idea that the force which literally creates life can be sanitised and transformed into a frivolous pastime; it cannot. What it does is encourage promiscuous sex, putting women (and any resultant children, who will almost certainly be aborted or grow up in a broken home) in dangerous, difficult situations that can be entirely avoided with a little bit of self-discipline – it’s a radical thought, I know, but if you don’t want to have children, then you could practise abstinence.

Men who apologise for contracepted sex are, in actuality, undisciplined, desperate, frightened little boys, waging a war on nature, trying to assert male control over the female body (which is ironic, considering that when it comes to abortion, the same men disingenuously insist they have “no right” to be anything but pro-choice, because it’s not their body). Men have no natural right whatsoever to exercise any control over the female reproductive processes, but liberal men endorse contraception because it provides an artificial safety net, enabling women to debase themselves and engage in casual sex, and also because it is a way of allowing them to indulge in such sex whilst also evading the consequences that would be a lot more likely to occur without contraception; essentially, contraception is a tool to enable men to treat women as living, breathing masturbation machines.

Well, you know, I am a man, and I have a higher opinion of women than that: my best friends throughout life have been female, and I think they – and all women – deserve an awful lot better than using contraception, which puts them at significantly increased risk of all sorts of medical issues, including strokes, heart diseases, blood clotsbrain cancerclogged arteries, and even clinical depression. A man who genuinely loves women acknowledges, accepts, respects, and embraces the life-creating capabilities of their bodies; he does not try and mould them into more convenient sex objects for his own gratification, by encouraging them to sterilise themselves with poisonous chemical cocktails.

I have to add as an afterthought that one cannot help but notice that, as well as being misogynistic, there is more than a hint of the homosexual about men who advocate the use of contraception. It is well-known that gay men find the female form not just unattractive, but repulsive as well; even this extremist feminist website admits that fact (tedious disclaimer: not all gay men… just 99%). Gay men just cannot fathom why straight men are attracted to females; they find the external reproductive organs disgusting.

Well, heterosexual men who engage in promiscuous, contracepted sex with women may not be homosexual in the sense of being attracted to other men, and they may be aroused by the female form, but they are absolutely petrified of the internal female reproductive organs; they are scared stiff of what the womb leads to – babies, commitment, sacrifice, selflessness… in other words, proper adulthood.

One of the most notable traits of homosexual relationships is that they are completely and unchangeably sterile; there is no potential for procreation. This is what contraception does to opposite-sex relations – it almost totally removes the creative potential of heterosexual intercourse, rendering it at best completely pointless, but at worst – and more typically – very damaging, leaving a trail of destruction in the form of dead babies and broken hearts in its wake.

I will allow Henry Makow to better encapsulate exactly what I mean:

“Forget about what you normally think of gay or straight (same-sex , opposite sex attraction etc.) Think of heterosexuality as monogamous and dedicated to rearing children; homosexuality as promiscuous and concerned with sex for its own sake.

Heterosexuality involves bonding permanently with a member of the opposite sex for love and usually procreation. It is participating in the natural life cycle, in the intrinsic meaning of life. Personal and societal health depend on heterosexuality.

Homosexuality is a form of arrested development caused by an inability to form a heterosexual bond. As a result, homosexuals compensate using sex as a surrogate for love.”

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Does what Henry is saying there about homosexuality not apply perfectly to contracepted, promiscuous heterosexual sex, too? Sex within the context of a loving, committed marriage, with the consequences fully explored, understood, and embraced, is great; sterile, meaningless sex between people who barely know each other – sex for sex’s sake – serves no purpose, and has the capacity only to harm. The comparisons are absolutely clear, and it can be in no doubt that contracepted heterosexual sex shares more in common with homosexual sex than it does with natural sex within an appropriate, loving context.

Seriously, men, please – if you genuinely care about women, please don’t endorse contraception or casual sex, because it is degrading and damaging for women. Let’s create a culture that cherishes female fertility and treats it with the delicacy it requires and deserves, rather than treating it like something terrible to be afraid of.

 

Consent: necessary, but not sufficient

I was reading an article about the recent Air China scandal, and stumbled across another article on the same website, telling the story of Shelby Neuens, a young woman who had been discussing Satanic cult rituals with her friend, and volunteered to have her arm sliced open and little finger cut off, so he could drink the blood (with friends like that, who needs enemies?). Thankfully, this disturbed young lady survived the incident, but reading about it inspired me to compose this entry about a subject that has really been at the forefront of mind recently, as well as in the public conscience, in relation to the Ched Evans story: the issue of consent.

You see, the cornerstone of modern morality – particularly with regards to sex – is the idea that, so long as all involved fully consent to a given activity, then everything is fine, there is no moral issue. According to this line of thought, any activity, no matter how dangerous, destructive, degrading, and damaging, is morally laundered, because of the magic word ‘yes’, which sanitises even the grubbiest pastimes.

This is one of the most corrosively destructive social attitudes of the 21st century (and there are a lot of those). Consent cannot be the ultimate arbiter of morality, because consent tells us nothing about the benefits of a course of action, or its destructive potential. Furthermore, consent has many different forms; consent can be manufactured — it can be given under duress, it can be given upon the basis of incomplete or false information, or it can be given in a decision-making process driven by internal pain or disturbance, a la Ms. Neuens. Does ‘consent’ given when one or more of these factors apply really count as truly consensual?

For example, when a bank robber points his gun at the hapless bank clerk and demands he fill a bag with money, and the frightened clerk complies, he is technically consenting; he is agreeing to fulfill the proposition of the robber. This is an example of consent given under duress, and most people would rightly say that consent given under those circumstances is invalid. But consent doesn’t have to be gained at gunpoint for it to be given under duress. The most pertinent people I can think of to illustrate my point are the female subjects in pornographic films. Most of these women are desperate: driven to pornography as a seemingly easy way of earning a lot of quick money, often to feed drug habits, pay off unscrupulous creditors, or just to earn enough money to feed their children. No woman aspires to be a porn star, because it’s a horrible job; but an unfortunate number are driven to it, feeling they have no other choice.

Technically, these women consent – they are not kidnapped and forced at gunpoint to feature in those wicked productions – but what value does their consent hold? Surely, it holds none – they have no choice, and are consenting out of desperation. Maybe that type of manufactured consent is enough to assuage the consciences of hedonistic moral relativists, but it is not enough to satisfy mine.

In 2012, I discovered that an old school friend, who I had not seen since 2008, had become pregnant. This was a shock, given her young age, and I ascertained soon after that, upon discovering his girlfriend was pregnant, this fine young gentleman abandoned her, and to this day, has minimal involvement with their daughter, who is now 3. The pain, difficulty, and trauma this has caused to the girl and her mother cannot be understated: the baby will grow up without one parent, experiencing all the emotional and psychological problems associated with that; and my friend was thrown into the deep end of single parenting, forfeiting the stable, family life she could have reasonably been expected to go on and enjoy; and if she is at fault for any of this, it is only because of naivety, rather than selfish self-centredness.

Well, here is the thing: my friend consented fully to sleeping with this ‘man’. But her consent was based on inadequate information. The first piece of faulty information she had based her decision on is that contraception is infallible; she soon learned that that is not the case. She had also assumed that her boyfriend was genuinely in love with her, wasn’t just using her for sex, and would face the consequences and support her, should she become pregnant. The package she got – pregnancy and single parenthood – is very different to the deal she signed up for – ‘harmless’ fun with someone who cared.

My friend made her decisions based on information that was wildly incorrect, but that was how the information was presented to her – our culture heavily promulgates the message that contraception makes sex entirely consequence-free, and no doubt her partner paid her the standard lip service that this type of man always does, telling her what she wanted to hear.

Look at the mess her entirely consensual actions got her into: two lives severely hampered. Stories like this are FAR from being uncommon in our wonderful modern utopia, and I think they should serve as indisputable proof that, no, consent doesn’t make everything okay. The lesson to take from stories such as my friend’s is that we absolutely HAVE to judge actions by their impact, not just dismiss the pain and problems caused by consensual actions, just because they’re consensual.

Ms. Neuens consenting to have her finger chopped off is clearly an example of consent coming from a very disturbed place, and therefore being invalidated. Think about it: what good can possibly come senselessly from mutilating your body in that manner? Such an action has no positive results. The only reason she felt such wanton destruction was a good idea is because she obtained some kind of gratification from it, and “because it’s fun” or “because I felt like it” aren’t ever very convincing reasons to site when trying to persuade someone something is justified. Yes, she consented, but so what? She is clearly very disturbed, and the action caused a lot of serious harm – she will never get that finger back, and could suffer from other medical consequences for the rest of her life.

It’s fine, though, it’s what she wanted.

This kind of consent brought about by inner turmoil is also demonstrated by promiscuous women. Sex is very different for women than it is for men: women have much less testosterone than men, and also can only be pregnant only once at a time – it is simply biologically impossible for women to be promiscuous for very long (without contraception and abortion), because they would be perpetually pregnant and always taking care of their children. It is reckless and dangerous for everyone to be promiscuous, but particularly women – women cannot abandon a pregnant partner and run away; even if they get an abortion, they still have to deal with the psychological impact of abortion for years after, possibly for life.

I theorise that promiscuous women are so inclined because they have self-esteem deficits, which are exacerbated by our sex-obsessed culture teaching girls to value themselves not by how kind, thoughtful, loyal, friendly, caring and so on they are, but on their physical attractiveness. Being desired by a man temporarily – very temporarily – fills that empty, gaping hole inside, and makes life seem worthwhile.

Yes, these girls consent to having casual sex with strangers, but the fact that it is consensual does not make promiscuous sex morally right. It is exploitative, and furthermore, sex is a powerful, primal force of nature: it is not to be taken lightly, and should rightly be reserved for married couples in a secure, loving union, with its consequences fully understood and explored. Casual sex leads to allegations of rape which destroy careers and lives, such as in the Ched Evans case; unplanned babies, such as in my friend’s case; sexually transmitted diseases; broken hearts; and, in extreme cases, suicide. Promiscuous women are even at greater risk of contracting cancer via the human papilloma virus.

And what good ever comes from it? None, barring very fleeting physical ‘fun’, which simply isn’t an adequate justification for an activity so fraught with risk.

So, you see, consent is definitely necessary – sex without mutual consent is rape, and rape is a despicable, evil act. But consent alone does not morally legitimise a decision, activity, or course of action. Some of the most harmful outcomes transpire after two or more people gave their consent. It’s time we start judging actions by their effect on the individual and others, rather than whether someone – who could be labouring under all sorts of delusions, could be under various pressures, or could be disturbed enough to be incapable of properly consenting –  consented to it.